The life of a WAHM’s child
Hi folks,
I like to share about the life being a child of a Work at Home Mom(or Dad) a.k.a WAHM. This is based on my own personal experience being brought up by a WAHM and WAHD(dad) as well as from my observation from the people around me.
When I was very young(before I started nursery at the age of 5), I used to be cared by my grandparents. Then from the moment I am five, my mom started to work from home doing tailoring/sewing to cared for the four of us.
In my memories, my childhood is filled with playtime with my neighbours(i.e. the kids around my age) and my siblings.
Mealtime is always a lovely time and the one that holds the strongest spot in my memory. I simply love the smell of home-cooked meals and love the process of helping my mom out in the kitchen.
And now, when I think of it, it is a pure luxury for kids with working parents who hardly cook during the weekdays I guess(I am currently a Full-Time Working Parents,(FTWP) myself). Being a FTWP myself, I would take every opportunity to prepare meals for my family but I also had to admit that I earned for the convenience of packed meal when time is running late.
Somehow, I cannot help but wonder what would be the memories of today’s children would reminisce when they grow up? Will it filled with the Kakak(a.k.a maid’s) lovely dishes or the varies computer games they played daily?
Now, that is one of the strongest point which makes me wanted to be a WAHM all along. Creating a happy and healthy childhood or create a good start for my kids. What about you? Have you thought of becoming a WAHM/D? And what makes you wanted to do so?
It is not all a bed of roses too being a WAHM and WAHM’s children.
Stay tuned for my next post about the challenges being a WAHM’s child.
Cheers!
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Comment by Zaza on 16 December 2009:
Ros,
Me too always have the same question wonders in my mind. What are these kids feeling? How will they be when they grows up? What happens in their childhood memories?
I’ll write about my experience & interview with the kids that grows up in a nursery and my husband’s experience being raised by nannies later. It really convince me the path I have choosen is right, to be a WAHM! Right now have to feed my Baby first
Zaza´s last blog post ..SWEET moments Contest by lensaMama
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Comment by eyriqazz on 16 December 2009:
Molly,great observation.As a FTWP,i spend more time in the office compare with family.Plus my wife also FTWP.I hope that I can spend more times with my family and enjoy seeing my kids grow.
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Comment by eliss on 16 December 2009:
masih tak mampu lagi nak jadik WAHM sebab tak tahu nak buat aper..hrp2 satu hari nanti i’m one of WAHM.Insya Allah
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Comment by natifar784 on 16 December 2009:
My dream is to be WAHM . I try to find the opportunity ….maybe after my husband has stable income . Maybe next 5 years..
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Comment by Zaza on 16 December 2009:
I can never imagine how the kids being raised by other people (not their own mom) because my mum is a housewife. Lots of my childhood memories is all about my mum. Now I am a mother and wants the best for my child. So I go deeper to seek what’s in the kids heart that they have never told us, or probably we have never even bother to ask.
Here goes my interview with my nieces (13yrs and 10yrs old):
Me : Best tak dok kat nurseri?
Kakak : Tak best langsung!
Adik : Haah! Tak best..
Me : Kenapa? Apa yg tak best?
Kakak : Bile bergaduh, tak org nak sokong kita.
( I think what she’s trying to say is, when the need their parents they weren’t there for them)
Me : Abis tu kalau nangis sapa pujuk?
Adik : Kawan2 la…
(bagus bdk2 ni…)
Me : Cikgu tak pujuk?
Adik : Kalau Baby nangis br la cikgu pujuk.
Me : Kalau diberi pilihan, nak suh sapa jaga?
Kakak & Adik : Mestilah makkkk….
I wonder what will be ‘tertanam’ dalam hati dan kotak fikiran kanak2 ini. We weren/t there when they need us. So when they grows up (we are old) will they be for us when we need them? I will tell you my husband’s experience later (if I have the time to)
Zaza´s last blog post ..SWEET moments Contest by lensaMama
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Little Mama™ Reply:
December 16th, 2009 at 11:42 PM
zaza, ish…sedih-sedih!!
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laila Reply:
December 22nd, 2009 at 8:16 AM
sedih…. insyaallah sy berhajat utk resign bila ank masuk sekolah. harap2 dipermudahkan jalan oleh NYA…
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Comment by isabelle on 16 December 2009:
u r absolutely right. what would they talk about when they grow old?
those fancy PS2 games? is that all?
anyway, i still cant see myself as a SAHM or WAHM. might be nice, but hmm… havent given it a deep thought yet.
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Comment by Millie on 16 December 2009:
I have been a WAHM since 5 years ago and yes, it’s not all bed of roses to both me the WAHM and the kids. Esp peak season like bulan puasa. Mcm tak cukup kasih sayang pulak they all
My kids are still small so I still need a live-in helper to help out with chores and also with kids (my hubby works long hours). Yes I cook but not everyday (depends on the WAHM work for the day/week). Trying to finish up quotations, or thinking of new stuff in my little SOHO while kids are fighting about something just a few meters away requires mental strength..! But this is what I chose so this is what I must go through..and I STILL choose this because of all the perks that come with it..I can witness their “firsts”, they’re more open with me..and I know they feel “safe” that I’m around them most of the time.
At times when I just dont know how to prioritize, I try to remember that “I’m a wife and mother FIRST and businesswoman second..”
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Comment by Jiji on 16 December 2009:
Semangat nak berenti kerja ni!!@!~
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Comment by alohamolly on 16 December 2009:
Terima kasih everyone for your sharings!
I think most of us would love to spend more time with our kids no matter what path we chose as a SAHM, WAHM or FYWP.
Zaza: Look fwd to your interview responses/results from the kids n hubby ya! Take ur time…life can b real bz and our priorities is to spend more time with our kids…
Eyriqazz: Yup brother, indeed even guys have such urge right even though WAHD is still rare here it seems…
eliss: Yup, tahu apa nak buat is the first step! Good Luck to us ya!
natifar784: Yup, having a target is good lar sis! Will learn from you and set a target too…a realistic one to work towards! Have dreams will comes true so long we work on our dreams rite! gambatei!
isabelle: Yup, I think for some of us, being a SAHM or WAHM might not be something we looking into actively. My sis is one..she cannot imagine herself looking after her kids alone 24/7. Even though like all parents, she loves to spent more time with them. So the question here for us, FTWP I think is the quality time spent with them when quantity is a luxury for us when time is concerned
Millie: Way to go Millie! U guys rock! WAHM is the BEST!
Jiji: Semangat yang amat bagus…any concrete plan dah? Let’s do it and execute our plans to achieve our dreams! Kena jugak ada proper planning untuk berjaya sebagai WAHM!
Thanks for all your feedback everyone!
Hope to hear more sharings from all…
Semoga kita berjaya mencapai matlamat masing2 dengan hati yang penuh gembira and tekad usaha gigih!
Cheers!
Alohamolly
http://secondtimeparenthood.blogspot.com/
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Comment by ummiluqman on 16 December 2009:
hopefully satu hari nanti dpt jadi WAHM. kena pikir apa nak buat kalau kat rumah ye?
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Comment by Hanz on 16 December 2009:
Molly & all..may our dreams to become WAHM would be successful soon!
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UstazCahaya Reply:
December 16th, 2009 at 8:18 PM
Hanz, may our dreams to be ‘WAHM n WAHD’ become true. Ameen;-)
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Comment by UmmiKhayra on 16 December 2009:
Me too… I really looking forward to become WAHM.. Its become my dream since i have Khayra. As a working mum, we spend more hours outside compare with our children..
UmmiKhayra´s last blog post ..~ MomBloggersPlanet Cutest Baby SMILING Contest ~
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Comment by unlisted_one on 16 December 2009:
Adoi,…Molly..I’m abt to cry la. Thinking about our child being alone at the nursery is unbearable sometimes.
I am sooo want to be a WAHM.
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Comment by kakyong on 23 December 2009:
kakyong belum lagi berjaya jd fully WAHM mere to SAHM..
part yg best yg buat senyum sampai ke telinga bila my 3 years son dok ckp… “hmmm, sedapnya bau… ibu masak apa ni?..” sambil tgn dia sibuk capai kerusi nak tengok apa yg kita masak…
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Comment by alohamolly on 23 December 2009:
Yup ummiluqman,UstazCahaya, Hanz, UmmiKhayra sama2 kita berusaha, moga2 have the blessing for such “sedap” life as shared by kakyong!
Memang bersetuju with kakyong sharing..memang sukacita dengar kata2 dan lihat anak2 kita membesar setiap saat!
unlisted_one, don’t cry[here's my shoulder], I know how you feel!
Wishing you all the Best! We just do Our BEST!
Cheers everyone!
Thanks for all the GREAT WISHES, Blessings, comments and support for my first blog post as MBP Contributor!
Banyak terima kasih kerana sudi beri komen dan support!
Stay tuned for my future posting!
Merry Christmas to ALL MBP rakan-rakan!
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