Blogging for A Better Future
Note: Article written by Mommy Lyna – currently is PC-less or should I say Lappie-less (komputer rosak ye). Cepat find a replacement lappie ye Lyna…
Today almost everybody has at least a blog, either it is private or public, personal or global, known or unknown. Most of us use blog as a channel to share our inner feelings, things those we are not able to express them verbally or by words.
Blog and Extreme Exposure
Blog is a thing that you can’t stop anyone from coming (unless you put password or you make it private). Blogging and listing it to the public means you are exposing what you write. If you write about thought, you are exposing your thought, your mindset, how do you think, how far can you see things, etc. If you write about yourself, you are exposing yourself, who you are, what you like, what you hate, who do you adore, etc. If you write about your family, you are exposing them. Who is your husband, who is your son, daughter, mother, father, etc. And so on.
Don’t go beyond the limit. Blog does not have any proof from any risks, hackers, haters, etc. Don’t treat blog as an online diary, and write every single thing about your life.
Why Blog Is Not Your Diary?
Some people take blog as an online diary, fine. But do not go beyond the limit. Your so called diary is read by hundreds, or maybe thousands of people. If you are a TV celebrity, or celebrity blogger, fine. Your fans are dying to know about your daily life. But if you are just an ordinary person, who has many things to be kept so that it won’t hurt you in the future, you better take this serious. Write only things you think public should know. Other than that, just keep in your very own diary, or make the entry protected.
Writing too much about yourself, your secrets, your bad habits, your black sides…. may not harm you as long as you have nothing to do with other people. But if you do, you better put everything on the right place and set boundaries.
Between Today And Tomorrow
Put an example if you write about your boss. You hate him, so you write an entry to condemn him. You even mention his name and the company you are working. You say “This is my blog, so it is OK to write anything!”.
The other day, your boss’s future counterpart googles your boss’s name, just to get few infos from the internet. Imagine if he find your blog and read all the things you write about your boss.
What do you think will happen to your boss’s future partnership? What do you think will happen to your boss? What do you think will happen to you???
OK maybe that’s too extreme 
Another example. You write about how you disappoint and sad upon your husband’s behavior. Being emotional, your writing says that you are really2 facing an agony in relationship with your husband, even if you do not mean to say that, but people may interpret differently.
Imagine that if some friends of your husband are making stories. Or maybe your own friends. See how your husband’s feeling when he heard about that. Even if you might explain everything, but people are talking about problems in your relationship! Something that you ought to keep it secretly between both of you.
Still can’t feel it?
Hmm.. another example maybe.
You blog about yourself, you write about everything relates to you. Every single thing, every sadness, every happiness, every anger… No filter in writing because you think you are free to write anything in your blog.
20 years down the road, your son are having relationship with a girl and plan to get married. Her family study about your family, and find your blog. They find out that you are this and that type, mostly negatives. Don’t you think it is good for inter-family relationship?
Doesn’t make sense?
OK I’ll try with my last example.
Just like the previous stories you put everything in your blog. Personal stories, pictures and so on.
One day in your office, you are competing with your colleague for a position that only could be filled by a body. Your colleague, who is dying for that position (and so do you!), find ways to sabotage you. He/she finds your blog, manipulate it, copy your pictures and super impose it. Then distribute it to other personnels in the company. What will happen then?
So, What to Write?
It is just okay taking a blog as an online diary, or personal journal, whatever.But, put limitation. Don’t share everything of anything just because you think “This is my blog” and your have authority. You have it, yes. But as long as your blog is published, you do not know who comes and read. Know your boundary, think about the future you are taking. Keep your secrets secret. Don’t assume everyone is your friend, there are things you should keep away from public.
Some tips about writing personal things but not to expose everything:
- Put watermark on your pictures.
- Instead of telling your problem, share the solution (you might get someone to help you first).
- Instead of making fool of certain people, make them anonymous.
- Instead of sharing about your feeling about something, share informations.
- Write about your house, your job, your kids but keep your house address, your workplace, your children’s school as secret. You might not want one day some bad people waiting for your children at school.
- Write about your love but keep your intimate relationship with your husband only between you two.
- I know you know what’s the best. You know your limit that’s why you blog, don’t you?
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Comment by isabelle on 10 February 2010:
waaa…very true.
the only think i dont do is putting watermarks on pix.
but if i were to fight for a post, no problem kot.
bcoz my boss reads my blog daily. hahaha. thats how close we are.
plus, i am not the type who desperately aims to be on top.
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Comment by natifar784 on 10 February 2010:
Agree with kak Ros…and very helpful tips lorr:)
natifar784´s last blog post ..nak dapat mata yang menarik ? Buat sendiri …
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Comment by yang on 10 February 2010:
yeee… agree and very true….
but sometimes… want to tell the personel story …
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Comment by syigim on 10 February 2010:
i totally agree mommylyna, about keeping certain things under wraps – penah baca entry about daughter luahkan perasaan about her mom lebihkan her abang & anak abang dia instead of her own….hmm, sedih nanti kalo mak dia baca kan…penah jgk baca blog by a TEACHER yg ngutuk guru besar! oh, no kalo students dia baca camne right?
i agree d part about instead of sharing prob, share solutions – exmple write about how NOT to beza2kan anak (for d daughter yg tulis psl mak dia tu..)
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Comment by suliana on 10 February 2010:
agree with you..especially kalau geram kat husband & tulis pasal dia, kena fikir juga nnti memalukan dia..
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Comment by mmyyen on 10 February 2010:
so agreed wit u..for newbie like me,i need more n more tips.can someone teach me,how to put the watermark?thanks ya..
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zuhaini Reply:
February 11th, 2010 at 10:08 AM
cara paling senang bubuh watermark, pakai Paint. Tapi x cantik.
Cari kedua mudah, pakai Photoscape, yang itu boleh di download dari internet for free.
cara susah sikit, tapi ngada-ngada, pakai photoshop.
sekian.
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sumijelly Reply:
February 18th, 2010 at 2:39 PM
hahaha… ayat yg last x leh tahan
cara susah sikit, tapi ngada-ngada, pakai photoshop.
hahahaha…
ada gak yek cara ngada2? kahkahkah…
tp betull… watermark is penyelamat..
kan pernah terjadi org lain mengaku anak org lain kata anak sendiri pas tu claim hadiah lagi… ingat x?? hehehe
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Comment by aiDiena on 10 February 2010:
Memang betul.. we really have to set boundary on what can and cannot share to public… kata dunia tanpa sempadan.. semuanya di hujung jari.. penjenayah zaman cyber nie lagie dasyat..
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Comment by siti fairus on 10 February 2010:
totally agree!! can be put as a reminder to myself and others, always thought about this but never thought about sharing it. thanks mommylyna.
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Comment by siti fairus on 10 February 2010:
totally agree!! can be put as a reminder to myself and others, always thought about this but never thought about sharing it. thanks mommylyna!!
siti fairus´s last blog post ..Two Glasses of ‘Teh Tarik’ at Metro Falcon
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Comment by Hanz on 10 February 2010:
boleh buat online diary for momento sake, manalah tahu satu hari tup2, kita koma, camner nak refresh memory..hehhee…as long remains discreet & berpada-pada..
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Comment by temp. housewife on 10 February 2010:
great tips! tula kdg2 syok sgt menulis tak ingat ramai yg akan baca nanti.
temp. housewife´s last blog post ..The whole body is still aching…..
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Comment by Khairi on 10 February 2010:
Saya xpernah letak water mark tu sebab ambil masa. huhu. Main paste aje ler.
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Comment by cathj on 10 February 2010:
Yeah this is very true.. I always think before I write.. especially exposing address..names of family members etc.. very dangerous..
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Comment by eliss on 10 February 2010:
me ckp baik2 jer pasal bos.hahahahaha
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Comment by zm82 on 10 February 2010:
Agree with you, me too when i was a beginner i always use my blog to express my emotions on somebody that i didn’t like, until one day that person read my blog and something happen between us
from that day, i’ve learnt something, never use my blog as a medium to condemn somebody..heheheee
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Comment by cutiecaliph on 10 February 2010:
waa..need watermark too!!
cutiecaliph´s last blog post ..A reader today is a leader for tomorrow
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Comment by shue on 11 February 2010:
can’t agree more.. great article! thanks.
shue´s last blog post ..bukan x sayang, cuma xde masa
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Comment by AdD on 11 February 2010:
betullah… sgt rajin nak buat watermark tu…
AdD´s last blog post ..Cuti Free yg menyeronokkan
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Comment by sya on 11 February 2010:
artikel ni buat saya muhasabah balik… dan cek balik entry2 lama…
sebelum ni, saya ada minta tolong seorang teman rapat untuk baca entry saya yang saya ragu2 nak publish. minta pandangan dia dulu sama ada ok atau tak untuk dipublish. kitorang bincang, dan jika rasa tak patut, saya tak publish.. atau, boleh di edit… bimbang juga kalau ada apa2 yang tak patut dipublishkan…
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Comment by yus on 16 February 2010:
Lyna laling.. manyak kretip lagi inovatip la post kali nih..
Manyak betul ooo..
My big boss baca tau I punya blog. Selalu mention dlm meeting. Apa la bos ku ini.. Bikin ku malu. Nasib takde adegan kutuk mengutuk melampau kat dlm blog. Kalu tak, haru je. Mau2 PTK tak lepas..ekkee..
Kalu ade sesapa nak buat blog kehidupan, better la buat blog private. Kita sorang je yg baca..
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Comment by unlisted_one on 18 February 2010:
Lyna punya tips ni v. useful. Thanks dear!
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Comment by sumijelly on 18 February 2010:
yer…ada baca kat blog kak Lyna..hehehe..
tp memang betul…nak kene cr la ada x article mengumpat2 dlm blog sumi..nak kene wat protexted balik la..
kang dh tua2 lelama jd lupa la pulak.. x pepasal ada lak besan g search dlm internet.. terkeluar lak entry tu.. x pepasal, x dpt menantu..muahahaha
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